You might already know that there was an eclipse last night. Apparently it was kinda a big deal, and I felt it, hard.
I was all foggy yesterday, and also pretty triggered. I had this sort of "I won't be pushed around anymore" vibe and turns out, that makes sense. As one of my favorite astrologers pointed out in an IG vid, this eclipse is asking us to cut the bullshit, to finally do the thing we've been putting off, to drawn the line in the sand and demand our boundaries be respected. Whew. That can feel like a lot.
It also feels like what I talk about doing all the time :)
Sometimes these ideas feel great in concept, but as someone who likes things to be tangible, concrete, and preferably in list form, I enjoy little "rules" that help me to know when a line might be getting crossed.
You've heard me talk about the "should's" many times before, and here's one new rule I've been employing for a really clear-cut way to see the red flags going up: if there's a "should" in the sentence, it's probably a "no."
The only reason I say "probably" is because there's one small caveat, and that is simply that we might be using the wrong language. Sometimes we say "should" about things we actually want to do, so it's important to check in. It's also important to use the correct language, so your body and Self know this isn't just an obligation, but a choice you're actively making.
For example: "I should eat my veggies," sounds like a drag, and like I'm reverting back to being yelled at as a child.
Instead try: "I want to eat my veggies," which is true, because veggies make me feel good, and eating them makes me feel like I am showing myself love and self care.
Let’s try another example: “I should call my friend.”
If I ask myself, “do I want to call my friend?” and the answer is no - perhaps I know it’ll be a drag to chat to her, she always puts me down, has a negative attitude, or simply I have a lot to do and this isn’t a priority - then I need to ask myself - “why do I feel obligated to call this friend?”
In short, if the word "should" pops into your mind, or comes out of your mouth, there's two routes to explore:
1. Do you really mean "want"?
2. You don’t want to do that thing, say NO.
Try applying this rule and see what you're doing out of obligation instead of actual desire.
In what other ways can you cut the crap and start showing up for yourself? If you're feeling all fired up and ready to really change your life, book a free clarity call to see if I can help you rewrite that script. It's time to start putting YOU at the top of your priority list, and build the rest of your life around what you want, need, and dream of.
Til next time!
xoxo,
m.
